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Some people feel slightly nervous before coming
along to a Beijing Speed Dating event, and we completely understand. But
remember everyone that comes along will be there for the same reason as
you. It seems like a good idea and it is. It’s really fun.
The one thing everyone will have in common is an
open mind and an appetite for a laugh and a good night out. Does that
sound like the kind of people you’d like to meet?
And don’t forget: If you
do not succeed (e.g. no matches, or not THAT person you where hoping for)
simply try again in another months time. Its a numbers game, and your
perfect match is out there!!
Don’t
give out any personal details!
Speed dating is a great way
to meet single guys. Its fun, it's fast and most importantly, it's safe.
Help us keep it that way by not giving out any personal information during
your speed dates. This includes last name, home address, telephone number
and email address.
Give
clear signals
Men are notoriously bad at
interpreting signals from women. Know what you want when you flirt and
make sure your signals are clear and that they convey what you mean. If
you genuinely want to meet people then by all means flirt, just make sure
you know how to separate the sexual flirting signals from the ‘hi, I’m
friendly’ flirting signals.
Laugh
and the world laughs with you
People love
being around charismatic people because they spread good feelings. Get
yourself into the right state of mind for making a fast impression and go
for it. Feel good about yourself and others will feel good about you.
Like
your mother said, if you haven’t got anything nice to say – don’t
say anything at all… but don’t get up and leave!!
It's almost
inevitable that some of the people you meet will not be right for you, but
they are human beings and deserve your respect and courtesy!
Be
interesting by being interested
Cut down the
talk about yourself and ask him open-ended questions. Find out about him -
after all people generally enjoy talking about themselves and feel
flattered when someone shows an interest in them.
Ask
him what he enjoys doing
Women and men
often tend to fall back on the line 'What do you do'? To some men, this
can smack of 'checking for wallet-padding'. Not everyone is doing work
they love and the question may put them on the spot. Men are much more
activity orientated than women. Asking them what they enjoy doing in their
life will allow you to find out more about what makes them tick.
Be
yourself
There's no
point assuming a role you think someone wants you to play because you'll
get found out sooner or later. Be proud of who you are!
Dress
code
One simple
rule of thumb for any outfit is that if your mother would wear it, you
shouldn’t. Likewise, if your daughter would wear it, you shouldn’t
either! If you look in the mirror and think, “Do I look ridiculous in
this?” lets face it – you probably do.
-If it
doesn’t fit, don’t wear it
-Wear
appropriate makeup
-If you
planning to take a cab you can wear the sexiest, most impractical high
heel you’ve got, after all, it’s the men that move around while you
stay seated. If you’re walking far or taking public transport you should
think about wearing moderately comfortable shoes
-Wear sexy
underwear – you’ll feel like a femme fatale! If you feel sexy you’ll
come across that way too.
-Don’t over
dress! Dress smart-casual- which can encompass anything from dressy jeans
to a nice dress.
Body language signals
Laugh
and the world laughs with you
People love
being around charismatic people because they spread good feelings. Get
yourself into the right state of mind for making a fast impression and go
for it. Feel good about yourself and others will feel good about you.
Concentrate on the
conversation, not on getting a second date
Most women
want to know what kind of person you are before deciding whether or not
they'd like to see you again. Make an effort to get to know her too,
you'll make a better fast impression that way. One of the most frequent
mistakes people make is that they dominate a conversation – remember,
it’s not all about you!
Give
genuine compliments – but not too many!
There's
nothing worse than someone giving out a load of overblown lines but
everyone has something great about them, notice that and compliment them
genuinely.
Keep
your hands to yourself and respect their space
Some people
are known as 'space invaders'. Even when engaging in a casual chat they
just seem to get too close. Some women have no objection to 'touchy feely'
encounters, others are horrified by it. Respect the person until you have
figured out more about her. Touching can be an effective, flirty action,
but should be confined to the arms or resting the hand just above the arms
and NOT touching, until you know more.
Be
yourself
There's no
point assuming a role you think someone wants you to play because you'll
get found out sooner or later. Be proud of who you are!
Body language signals
There are a few basic rules that everyone must follow
to ensure privacy and fun for everybody.
Firstly, you may not ask questions during the sessions
specifically about peoples place of work or home address.
Nor should you try and circumvent the process by asking
direct questions such as 'So are you going to tick Yes next to me?’
Go easy on the alcohol – contrary to popular belief drinking does not make one more interesting!
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